Here is a list of things which, if you give up on them, will make your life a lot easier and much, much happier. We often cling to things that cause stress and suffering, even though letting go could be liberating. Take a moment to see if these tweaks can spark more joy:
1. Release Your Grip On Control
Be willing to give up your need to always control everything that happens to you and around you — situations, events, people, loved ones, co-workers etc.Ever had someone ask hundreds of questions about a situation in an attempt to “avoid” the risks for the situations. This is control disguised as risk prevention. Micromanaging disguised as “risk prevention” only creates tension. Allow situations and people to unfold naturally, and you’ll find greater ease.
“By letting it go it all gets done. The world is won by those who let it go. But when you try and try. The world is beyond winning.”- Lao Tzu
2. Give Up On The Blame Game
Give up on your need to blame others for your circumstances or emotions. You have the power to take responsibility for your life. People might affect you, but you control how you react. Blaming is a dead end. Embrace accountability and stop pointing fingers. Stop giving your powers away and start taking responsibility for your life.
3. You Don’t Have To Always Be Right
There are so many of us who can’t stand the idea of being wrong — wanting to always be right — even at the risk of ending great relationships or causing a great deal of stress and pain, for us and for others. It’s just not worth it. Whenever you feel the ‘urgent’ need to jump into a fight over who is right and who is wrong, ask yourself this question: “Would I rather be right, or would I rather be kind?”
4. Give up your self-defeating self-talk
How many people are hurting themselves because of their negative, polluted and repetitive self-defeating mindset? Don’t believe everything that your mind is telling you — especially if it’s negative and self-defeating. Instead try positive talks, an easy way to do this is through affirmation cards
“The mind is a superb instrument if used rightly. Used wrongly, however, it becomes very destructive.” Eckhart Tolle
5. Give up your limiting beliefs
Don’t let self-doubt hold you back. It’s not about limitations, it’s about possibilities. From now on, you are no longer going to allow your limiting beliefs to keep you stuck in the wrong place. Spread your wings and fly!
“A belief is not an idea held by the mind, it is an idea that holds the mind” Elly Roselle
6. Give up complaining
Give up your constant need to complain about those many things — people, situations, events that make you unhappy, sad and depressed. Ditch the constant complaining about things that bring you down. Your perspective shapes your experience. It’s not the situation that triggers those feelings in you, but how you choose to look at it. Never underestimate the power of positive thinking.
7. Give up the luxury of criticism
Give up your need to criticize things, events or people that are different from you. We’re all unique, yet share common desires: happiness, love, and understanding. We all seek to be understood, so lean into the desire to not criticize.
8. Give up your resistance to change
Change is good. Change is a catalyst for growth. It helps you move forward and improve your life, and the lives of those around you. Change will help you make improvements in your life and also the lives of those around you. Follow your bliss, embrace change.
“Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors for you where there were only walls” Joseph Campbell
9. Give up the past
Letting go of the past can be tough, especially if it seems better than the present or the future feels scary. The past you are now longing for — the past that you are now dreaming about — was ignored by you when it was present. Stop deluding yourself. Be present in everything you do and enjoy life. After all life is a journey not a destination. Have a clear vision for the future, prepare yourself, but try to be present in the now.
10. Give up attachment
Detachment can be challenging, but it’s achievable. I sometimes find myself nostalgic about the past place, or situation and fantasizing about how things were. The moment you detach yourself from all things, (and that doesn’t mean you give up your love for them — because love and attachment have nothing to do with one another, attachment comes from a place of fear, while love… Well, real love is pure, kind, and selfless, where there is love there can’t be fear, and because of that, attachment and love cannot coexist) you become so peaceful, so tolerant, so kind, and more at peace. You will get to a place where you will be able to understand all things without even trying. A state beyond words.