Stop Running, Take Control: How Self-Control Can Conquer Your Problems

Stop Running, Take Control: How Self-Control Can Conquer Your Problems

Have you ever felt like your problems chase you wherever you go? We've all been there. “You can change locations but not run away from your problems, they will always be there waiting for you. As tempting as running away to costa rica, or thailand is to solve your problems, soon you will encounter a set of similar issues”. What if, instead of running, we focused on building the strength to face them head-on?  What about leaning on self-control to tackle life's challenges.

The Self-Control Advantage

Sure, some tasks come naturally. But for the rest, self-control is the glue that holds us together. It's the force that gets us to finish that project, even when our focus wanders 

Here are three strategies to build your self-control and finally maybe walk vs run away from your problems:

  1. Outsmart Temptation: Focus on Prevention

Imagine walking past your favorite bakery, the smell of fresh bread and you’re hooked. If resisting is a constant struggle, maybe it's time not walk by that bakery! This is the essence of the prevention focus: avoiding situations that tempt you to derail your goals.

Think of your to-do list as a shield against unwanted distractions. By completing tasks, you "prevent" yourself from falling into unproductive habits. 

  1. Feelings Don't Dictate Actions: Don’t wait to be inspired

We often wait for a bolt of inspiration before tackling a project. But here's the secret: most successful people rely on work routines, not fleeting motivation. They show up and get things done, regardless of their mood.

Think of us as writers who crank out pages even on "off" days, or athletes who train through fatigue. Honestly, half the time it is just showing up, you may have a good day, you may not but the point is you showed up. You may pick up inspiration along the way.  Inspiration is lovely, but self-control ensures progress.

  1. Plan for Success: The Power of "If-Then"

Willpower is a finite resource. So why rely on it for every decision? Here's where "if-then" planning shines.

E.g: "If I finish this writing, then I can take a 15-minute break."

By setting these triggers before we get started, you reduce the need for constant willpower. You've already have your fallback plan and course of action, minimizing those moments of "should I or shouldn't I?"

Remember, self-control is a muscle that gets stronger with exercise.  Stop running from your problems, and just instead invest in self control.

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